“It is only possible to live happily ever after on a daily basis,” Margaret Bonnano
You know the basic Hollywood or Disney story. Girl lives hard and unsatisfying life. Girl struggles through it for years. Girl finds amazing man to complete her. They live happily ever after. This is not how real life goes down. This is for both guys and girls, the girl example was used because that was the first scenario that came to mind.
If you are waiting for something or someone to complete your life and make you live the rest of your life happily, you are in for a rude awakening. Even if you do find that something or someone you believe will make you happy you will find a reason to be unhappy if your happiness is based on external factors. Happiness has to come from the inside. You have probably heard this a thousand times but it really is true. If you are not satisfied with who you are and what your place is in this world then you will never truly be happy.
If you rely on external factors for your happiness then it will only end in sadness and suffering. Everything in this world is impermanent and once you base your happiness on something external from yourself it is only a matter of time before it changes and your world crashes down with it.
Happiness is also a choice. A choice that you can and should make today. Stop worrying about what happened in the past or what is going to happen in the future. You can’t change what has already happened and you definitely cannot predict what will happen in the future. Try to focus on where you are in this moment. Too many things are missed by our lack of awareness of the present moment. Endless worry about what will become of our life will only end in anxiety in things that you think will come true but in reality very rarely even happen. Fear is only finding fault with the future, and since the future is unpredictable there is nothing to be fearful of. All you can do is live life in the present today and try to live up to the values that you want to guide your life.
Implicit Joy 