There are numerous studies that show that people from poor countries are still happy even though they don’t have all the luxuries that people in the U.S. have. Then you look at people that win the lottery and their life goes down the drain. I do not want to say that living poor is great and we all need to be poor to live happy, I am just trying to introduce another way to look at the issue of happiness and wealth. So the question for the day is: What makes people that are very poor and living a life of uncertainty happy? I believe this is a two part answer.
Number one is that the human mind is great at adapting to life situations. When you get a raise or a new item you momentarily gain satisfaction with what you have gained, but after a little time you will be back to the base level of contentment that you started at. This is very important because that means that we can adapt to having less things. It may be hard at first when you are used to living in the lap of luxury, but over time by forcing yourself to live with less or dealing with uncomfortable situations, over time you will learn to live with it. Some examples of doing this are turning your heat or a/c lower to use less energy. Riding a bike instead of taking the car. Not buying any clothing for a few months. The level of being uncomfortable will be different from person to person, but it will make you appreciate the life you have by giving some things up. It will also make you a more badass human being because you will be able to live with less and be more resilient to the bad things that are bound to happen in your life.
Number two is that people that live with uncertainty (whether it is where they are going to sleep the next day to what they are going to eat) have opened up to the realization that pain is inevitable in life and that they have to live with it. They have accepted that life is ephemeral and out of their control so they spend time creating relationships with their family and neighbors to work together towards making a living and for their well being. They focus more on relationships than what they may be able to get in the future. They focus on living their life at the present time then gaining more and more. When you are constantly waiting for the next raise or the next new gadget you buy to make you happy you enter a never ending cycle of wanting more. Uncertainty gives life more flavor and keeps you on your toes to see what will happen next.
Again, this isn’t to say that being poor and without anything is great or that you can only be happy when you are poor. I am just pointing out that our focus is usually misguided and based on things that we think will fulfill us but actually don’t. All of this makes sense if you think about the evolution of humans. Scarcity was the thing that controlled human life up until recent times. There were very few people who had the luxury of excess and many who struggled every day to stay alive. This is true to a certain extent in some areas of the world today, but in the U.S. and many other first world countries almost everyone lives in extravagance. We still have the urge to horde as many resources as possible because of the hardwired scarcity of the past in a time when we can get anything we went with a quick trip to the store. Our evolution has made us go haywire where we are all consumerists instead of creative, loving human beings.
By keeping our focus on things that will actually make us happy instead of following the lies that are fed to us every day in advertisements, we will all be better off. Everyone will have a different life ideal but here are some other proven things that will lead to happiness. Focus on your spiritual life. Instead of using the money we are making to buy a bunch of stuff we don’t need we should try saving it for more lofty goals in life. We can save to the point where we don’t have to work until we are 65, or save enough that we can actually have enough money to make an impact on other people’s lives through giving. We can use our money for experiences rather than material goods that promise an endless amount of things that will not occur with the purchase of them. We can work less so that we have more time with our families and hobbies. We should be striving for more time not more money in our lives as a whole. These are just a few ideas of many.